deAurora Nuevo Dia newspaper Rivera February 2007
"Steps to not suffer in vain," where we outlined the thinking of Roberto Tirigall psychologist, author of Psicomeditación.
The psychologist believes that when you think of something that causes suffering without doing anything about it, the result is simply create needless suffering. Tirigall
proposes a process that involves five steps. They should begin once the person decides not to pursue a relationship, and completed one after another in the proposed order, one leads to another.
1) strive not forget
The more we try to forget something else remember. It is for this reason that the effort to get us something of the mind leads to greater suffering. It is necessary to let the thoughts and images running on the mind without trying to change them.
2) Close a position to open other
Suppose now decided to send an email to a cousin. Start writing, but the phone rings and I start to talk to that person. Soon the mind will tell me the end of the 'mail', this happens because the mind does not like having things to do. In this case, not to have something pending and close the situation I can finish the 'mail and send it, or I can not send it. If I leave writing half going to stick around in your head. "
3) Release the past to live now
often we tend to relive past situations or anticipate future imagination that has not happened. We must remember that the most important thing is to live the here and now, so we have to give full attention to what we do.
4) To be alone to know what we
already closed the connection, I recall effort, I live in the here and now and now I'm alone. The loneliness can help us become aware of who we are and what we achieve in life.
5) Remember that everything changes Nothing stays
permanently, everything changes constantly. You have to accept changes life in the same way that you accept that the day turns into night, or a sunny day in rainy ".
Roberto Tirigall
Psychologist, Author and International Speaker
Author of books and Psicobelleza Psicomeditación
Website : www.robertotirigall.com
